Taking Space

I’m feeling scattered today. Been feeling scattered the past several days. 
It’s difficult to write a blog when I need to use my journaling time to process deeply personal questions.
I need to be in conversation with myself right now, in private. 
In my own energetic space. 

I’ve been realizing just how much space I need, to be able to show up gracefully to others.
I’ve been realizing that scatteredness correlates to messy communication, which can cause harm.
Ironically, the more space I take, the more grounded I become, and the more I can show up with love, tactful care, & wisdom, which makes the togetherness much, much better.

The more I pressure myself - or allow others to pressure me - to be with them in every moment, or risk losing them, the less fulfilling those moments will likely be… and *that* will more likely lead to loss. Quality over quantity. Less is more. The adages are old, and the truth of them is time tested. 

Pro tip (a new practice I’m playing with) -
If you’re in an intense conversation with someone and start feeling irritated, anxious, or otherwise ungrounded, tell them you need to take some space to center yourself. Tell them you’ll be upstairs (for example) for 20ish minutes (or 3 hours, or the rest of the day! Whatever you feel is needed.) and then will return back to the conversation - or maybe just return to check in and see if more time/space is needed. This way, their nervous system knows how to orient around your absence. With this clear communication, they are less likely to feel jarred or abandoned, so they’re less likely to push back and pressure you to stay. And then with the space you’ve carved out for yourself, you can journal, meditate, dance, scream, or whatever else helps you move through whatever needs to be processed, which can only help the conversations you come back to.